How to Survive the Summer Slump Relationships Face

If you had been looking forward to a steamy summer with your significant other, only to find that one of you is more interested in seeking greener pastures, you’re not alone. According to a Facebook data study, the worst time for relationships is May through August of each year. So why do couples fight more (and break up) in the summer? Shouldn’t we be enjoying hot temperatures instead of suffering through hot tempers?

If this sounds familiar, read on—and think about putting couples counseling on your summertime to-do list.

Why do people break up more in the summertime?

What have you been doing for the last 18 months? If you’re like most of America, you’ve probably been juggling remote work, quarantines, lockdowns and other pandemic-related problems. If you haven’t been able to hang out with family and friends, either, you might have gone a little stir crazy. Now that pandemic restrictions are lifting, more people are getting out—and they’re seeing what they’ve been “missing” for the last year and a half.

This is normal every year—couples often break up in the summertime because the increased opportunity to hang out with other people also gives them an opportunity to see who else is available. When you add a global pandemic to the mix, which had record instances of depression, anxiety, grief and domestic abuse, it’s not surprising that people might be looking for the next great fling. On top of that, crime and arguments spike in hot temperatures—there’s something about hot weather that makes people a lot crankier than normal.

That doesn’t mean you’re doomed to break up this summer, however. It’s just one explanation of many for why couples break up this time of year. If you want to survive a summer slump, keep reading.

How to survive a summer slump

Maybe your significant other’s dirty socks on the floor and life-size cardboard cutout of Jason Momoa have finally pushed you over the edge, and you’re thinking about ending things. But if you would rather work through it, there are a few things you can do to help bolster your relationship through these trying times:

  • Take some time apart: No, you don’t have to go on a break—but doing separate activities can refresh the relationship. If nothing else, you’ll have something new to talk about when you do spend time together.
  • Travel together: What could be more fun than traveling? Not only will you see new places, you’ll have new experiences—and being in a new location can encourage heightened levels of intimacy.
  • Get couples’ counseling: It might not be as fun as a sexy vacation, but couples’ counseling is your best bet to work through a summertime slump. Your therapist can help you get to the root of the issues, and communicate about them in a healthy manner.

When summer gets the best of your relationship, couples counseling is always a wise choice. Get in touch with Ellen Savage, LCPC today to schedule an appointment.